The Darkness of Hate

March 10, 2015

The Darkness of Hate

1 John 2: 9-11
Anyone who claims to be in the light but hates his brother is still in the darkness. 10Whoever loves his brother lives in the light, and there is nothing in him to make him stumble. 11But whoever hates his brother is in the darkness and walks around in the darkness; he does not know where he is going, because the darkness has blinded him.

Matthew 5: 43-44 says, “Ye have heard that it hath been said, Thou shalt love thy neighbour, and hate thine enemy. But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you.
There are some of us that have been offended, hurt, defrauded, cheated and taken advantage of. There are some of us who have hate in our hearts and who feel so strongly about it that Christianity or no Christianity, it is our right to hate this person or persons and no one is going to take that away from us. “If they had done to you what they did to me you would hate them too.” We are convinced we are justified and in the right, but somewhere deep down has to be the realization that hate is now your master and you are its slave. Maybe you are determined to get revenge and right the wrong, pay back evil for evil and hurt for hurt. When that is all done will your spirit be healed, will a relationship be reconciled and will you feel good about yourself again?
Hate is darkness when it possesses us. It often overrides rational and clear thinking because it is only fixed on one thing, revenge. Forgiveness isn’t even in our vocabulary at that point in time. It is ironic that nothing can destroy hate like forgiveness and nothing can bring a greater retribution than love. While hate will shut us down to the Spirit of God and allow us to be driven by the passion of our emotions, if love and forgiveness are given place, it changes the dynamic from destruction to construction. Hate perpetuates itself and only serves to destroy all who take it into their soul and hold on to it. It is like a cancer and infection that only breeds more sickness and disease.
What if Jesus just happened to know what He was talking about when He said, ‘love your enemy, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you and pray for them that despitefully use you and persecute you. ‘
The Father is telling us that when others offend and hurt us, then they are answerable and accountable to Him for hurting His kids. He is telling us, “ you don’t have to hate and get justice; you let Me take care of that”. Romans 12:17-21 says, “17Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everybody. 18If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. 19Do not take revenge, my friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord. 20On the contrary: “If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head.” 21Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.” If you want to get to your enemy then do the opposite of what they expect, love them and forgive them. Even go so far as to do them good and bless them.
Hate destroys and damages the hater far more than it hurts the object of the hate. Our hate and unforgiveness puts a wall up that holds back God’s forgiveness for us. In Matthew 6:14-15 Jesus tells us, “For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. 15But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.” When you fall into hate you further allow that person you hate to damage you more by hurting your relationship with the Father.
You may be saying, “I can’t help the way I feel and this person doesn’t deserve my forgiveness.” You and I didn’t deserve the Father’s forgiveness, but it says that, ‘while we were yet sinners Christ died for us.’ We were the enemies of God. Our sin had a part in putting to death Jesus upon that cross. We as much as nailed His hands and feet to the cross. As Jesus hung their dying and having all of the reason and excuse in the world to hate His enemies and what they had done to Him, he said, “Father, forgive them; for they know not what they do.” If Jesus could forgive you and I, do we have a right to not forgive one another?
When you are able to go beyond your emotions and feelings, and despite your feelings pray in faith for forgiveness for those that have hurt you, it will begin to set you free. It may well take time for your emotions and feelings to catch up with your act of faith and obedience to God’s word, but you have opened the door for Him to begin to heal the hurts and offenses you have held in your heart. It is not saying that the person you have hated was at all justified in their actions toward you, it is saying that in spite of that you choose love and forgiveness. Release whatever hate and unforgiveness you have been harboring in your heart and give it to the Lord. Allow Him to be your judge and vindicator. Allow the light and love of God’s forgiveness to once again release your soul from the darkness that hate has held you in. Come into the light and love of His forgiveness as you release yours.

blessings,
#Kent

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Your Gift of God’s Love

November 2, 2012

Luke 11:4
Forgive us our sins, for we also forgive everyone who sins against us. And lead us not into temptation.

Your Gift of God’s Love

Remember that friend that betrayed you? The one you love and trusted and shared everything with? Maybe it was a husband, a wife, a close friend or relative.
Wow, how could you forget the hurt you felt when you discovered that betrayal. This was a person that you loved and would have done anything for. How could they do such a thing?
Now what? They are banned from your life forever. You feel you could never trust them again and maybe you shouldn’t. Maybe they repented, cried and asked for your forgiveness, but how could they dare, after what they had done? Now they are on your black list. Your list of unforgiveness, where they have been exiled forever, as far as you are concerned.
I know, who needs people like that in their life? That person you were so vulnerable with and told all of your secrets. Maybe it stirs up all of those raw emotions even thinking about it again.
Did you know Jesus had some friends like that? Some of them were His very own disciples that swore they would stick by Him even to the death, but when it came to that, they ran away. Peter, one of Jesus’ closest disciples and friends even denied, cursed and swore he never knew him.
How twisted and sharp the knife of betrayal can be. How deep are its pain and wounds.
Why didn’t Jesus write off these, “so called friends” of His? Why wasn’t He wiser to pick more faithful and trustworthy people?
Maybe because they were a lot like all of us, who under the right circumstances, would act out of an unbecoming nature and character. Did it mean they didn’t really love Jesus? Did it mean they didn’t hate what they had done or how they had acted?
No, we see Peter, after realizing what he had done, weeping bitter tears for denying his Lord and his best friend.
Maybe those who have hurt and betrayed us don’t deserve our forgiveness, but Jesus showed us through the cross that forgiveness, though undeserved, it what sets people free. When we are the one that has been wronged, it sets us free as well. Forgiveness is a wall of un-love that we erect to keep out our offenders, but it doesn’t just isolate and separate them, it does something else. It separates us in our relationship with the Father.
Jesus says in Matthew 6:15, “But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.”
Did Jesus lead by example? What did He say on the cross concerning those who had beaten, tortured and hung Him there? “Father forgive them, for they know not what they do.”
Maybe today is a good time to forgive that person who has hurt you, physically, emotionally, spiritually or even in all of those ways. You are not saying they are right in what they did, only that you have enough of the love of the Father to release them and no longer hold their offense against them. When you set them free, you will set yourself free as well. The love of your forgiveness is one of the richest ones that you can give and, like God’s love, it is not given because it is deserved or earned, but because you choose to be like Jesus in His love for you. You and I didn’t deserve God’s forgiveness, but He chose to give it to us anyway.

Blessings,
kent

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