Longsuffering
January 31, 2014
Longsuffering
Ephesians 4:1-3
I therefore, the prisoner of the Lord, beseech you that you walk worthy of the vocation wherewith you are called, With all lowliness and meekness, with longsuffering, forbearing one another in love;
Endeavoring to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.
Longsuffering, patience, forbearance are all attributes of our heavenly Father and those that are to be a part of our nature and behavior as we walk in the Spirit. Many of us might have to admit that longsuffering and patience is not one of our stronger areas. We have goals, agendas, deadlines and most of us are in the rat race of moving a hundred miles an hour through life trying to get as effectively and quickly from one point to the next in the shortest amount of time. Time is a commodity that is precious to us. There never seems to be enough of it. We are usually rushing from the time our feet hit the floor until, exhausted, we fall into bed. Invariably in our race through life there are the slow pokes, the obstacles, the things that don’t go right, the obstructions to what we have our eyes fixed on as our next destination. Those are the things that raise our blood pressure, push our buttons and often cause us to get very irritable and impatient. Without realizing it we want everyone to be patient with us when we take our slow sweet time, or impede the procession of life in some way, but we have a hard time dealing with being on the other end. All of these objectives we have and time crunches we are in make it very hard for us to be patient and longsuffering. The human element and personalities of others often just drive us up the wall, because they aren’t meeting our expectations.
We can even see the frustration of God’s heart when He deals with us time after time, after time with areas of our lives and we don’t seem to want to change or lay hold of it. We read the rebukes of Jesus sometimes, even with the disciples, because what should be plain, they don’t get. Yet Jesus doesn’t scream and shout, throw up His hands and walk away, He forbears with them. All of us are aware in dealing with the dynamics of human relationships we can all become frustrated, which can lead to impatience and anger. Then we end up acting and saying things that latter we feel like a horse’s rear end for having done.
Think about Sunday morning, you’re trying to get ready and get to church on time, but somebody is in slow mode. You hate walking in after things have already started, but its looking like you are going to be late again. Frustration is building, you continue to ask if they are about ready, the other person begins to get irritated with your irritation and impatience, words start to be exchanged and before you know it war has broken out. The trip to church is an exchange of angry words, frustrations and by the time you arrive, you at your spiritual best.
The enemy is at work to always rob our peace and rest in Christ. Sometimes our longsuffering is brought about through a lot of prayer and tongue biting. The flesh, emotions and feelings are often hard to contain and maintain. Isn’t it wonderful that we get so many opportunities to practice? Most all of us struggle in these areas, but we must always be reminded that our position is that of the servant and putting others before ourselves. It is often these surface issues of impatience that cause us to miss the deeper needs of people and how God would have us to minister to them. We always have to remind ourselves that God’s business is our priority and not our own. Sometimes I think God puts obstacles in our way to force us to slow down. I’m convicted that I don’t want to become and be like God’s people of old, “For this people’s heart is waxed gross, and [their] ears are dull of hearing, and their eyes they have closed; lest at any time they should see with [their] eyes, and hear with [their] ears, and should understand with [their] heart, and should be converted, and I should heal them (Matthew 13:15).” Where would you and I be today without the longsuffering of our Father? We wouldn’t even exist.
Sometimes the one I get most impatient with is myself, for all the stupid mistakes I make and all of the things I forget, but then, if it does nothing else, it should serve to give me patience and longsuffering with others; being as forbearing with them as I must be with myself. As the Australian’s say, “ No worries mate.” Let’s slow done and be aware of how God wants to move in us and though us, even in those often frustrating times and events that touch our lives. We are learning to be His expression and that can only come through longsuffering and patience.