Returning to Our First Love
December 9, 2013
Returning to Our First Love
Revelations 2:4-5
Nevertheless I have this against you, that you have left your first love. 5 Remember therefore from where you have fallen; repent and do the first works, or else I will come to you quickly and remove your lampstand from its place—unless you repent.
Love is a many splendored thing, but it can also be a place of vulnerability, heartache and disappointment. So much depends on the care, attentiveness and tenderness with which we handle the most precious of gifts, one another’s hearts and their love.
That first found love between two lovers those years back, it seemed so rich. You loved one another’s presence and you didn’t want to be apart. Your desire for one another was so strong and you bathed in the love that you had for one another. Oh, that first love, how rich and full and sweet it was.
Little by little small offenses began to enter in. Sometimes unkind remarks were made that wounded your spouse’s soul, neglect, lack of communication, demands of life; so many things can tear at the foundations of your love.
We begin to take for granted that first love, as we become more familiar with the other. Those little things that we didn’t notice or didn’t seem to bother us now become a source of irritation and conflict. Our hearts that were so warm and open begin to close as we often, without even knowing why, transform from that loving unity, to opponents and foes. Little by little we can shut down in our emotions and our love to the point we forgot why we even liked this person, let alone loved them.
We can often wander and drift away from our first love for Christ the same way. Instead of being continually awed and thankful for all that Christ has done and continues to do for us, He becomes common, just another element of our lives and not the substance of them. How blind we all can become to the hardness that can come over our hearts with regards to the ones we love and what we have held so dear. Many of us have lost that which we once cherished more than life itself.
What has changed? Is it them or is it us? Maybe it is like our environment. We love the beauty of the water and streams, the woods and forest, the mountains, oceans and wildlife, but if we have them before us every day we may take them for granted and lessen in our once great appreciation of them. Somewhere in there our motives for gain, for what benefits us and for what we think will better our lives out weighs our appreciation for the other. At the environment’s expense, we begin to deplete our forest, tear up our mountains, pollute our waters and destroy what we once held so dear. It is the same thing that we do to our marriages and our relationships.
We lose sight that our spouse is our teammate that we are dependent upon one another to make life easier and sweeter. Yet we are so blind at how the enemy of our soul comes into to kill, steal and destroy what was the most precious thing in our lives. Our unity is destroyed and our marriages turn from bliss to ashes. Isn’t it because we have bought into the lie? When one of us in our marriage loses we both lose. There are no winners and losers, because we are a team. A house divided against itself cannot stand.
The older my wife and I grow together, the more dependent we are on each other to remember things, to help each other, and to be the strength in the other’s weakness. On the other hand there is the temptation to find more fault with the other’s shortcomings, especially when they have chided you for yours. We have to realize that we are a team. We need each other more than ever. Love cannot become a selfish thing that only looks out for itself. If it has and is becoming that then it has left the boundaries and definition of love. The nature of love is to serve, to give and bless another. Love always exalts the other above itself.
Perhaps it is time for many of us to remember and to return to our first love both in our physical and spiritual relationships. It is time to give the precious gifts of our humility, our forgiveness and our first love. It is time to make a safe place where we can come together, not to find fault or blame, but to find reconciliation and healing for our hearts and our relationships. Isn’t this what God wants for us? I believe He will help in this endeavor if we call upon Him and His love to fill our hearts. Let us cherish and once again hold with such tenderness and sanctity the gift of one another’s hearts and love. In the same way let us recommit to our first love for Christ and find the first passion that so consumed our soul.
Blessings,
kent
Good out of Evil, Life out of Death
November 11, 2013
Good out of Evil, Life out of Death
Genesis 50:16
But as for you, ye thought evil against me; [but] God meant it unto good, to bring to pass, as [it is] this day, to save much people alive.
Most of us know the story of Joseph, how as a young man his brothers despised him because he was daddy’s favorite, he was a dreamer who seemed to think of himself as superior to everyone else. He was daddy’s informant about what was going on among the other ten sons. One day as they saw him coming it was in their heart to kill him, but instead they had opportunity so they sold him into slavery which led him to Egypt. The sons represented Joseph as dead to their father by taking his coat, tearing it and covering it with lamb’s blood and saying that they found it. This caused tremendous grief and heartbreak for Jacob for years to come. Joseph, after being sold into slavery, gained favor with his master for a time as the Lord blessed him, but then was thrown into prison after being falsely accused of rape when he fled the temptation of his master’s wife’s seduction. Even in Pharaoh’s prison he gained favor and possessed the gift of interrupting dreams. He once interpreted the dreams of the Pharaoh’s baker and cupbearer. Both of the dreams came to pass. After more years in prison Pharaoh had a disturbing dream that only Joseph was able to accurately interpret. This then brought him into a place of rulership and authority as he was given the responsibility for preparing and preserving Egypt and the surrounding nations during a time of great famine. Long story short Joseph’s brothers come for grain and Joseph has his opportunity to deal with his brothers. What would you and I do in that circumstance? Even the law said “an eye for an eye and a tooth for tooth.” He could kill them, throw them into prison, or torture them; they were in his power.
The point the Holy Spirit wants to bring to us is that life may deal to all of us at one time or another some very devastating blows. It can come in many forms, abuse physically, mentally, sexually, betrayal in a marriage, the crippling effects of an accident or disease, the list could go on and on. When our lives have been devastated by some traumatic event how are we going to respond? Will anger, bitterness or unforgiveness consume us? Will we blame and forsake God? Will we seek revenge and hurt for the ones who have hurt us? What will we do with the evil and the death that has befallen us?
A while back I related a story of how I inadvertently used weed and grass killer on my grass thinking it was only a weed killer. Large yellow areas developed all over my lawn and it looked like I had destroyed it. Now, a couple of months later, after watering, rain and a little fertilizer the lawn is green again. Yes, there are still small areas throughout the lawn that were killed, but little by little they are filling back in. What’s my point? I thought of how this was much like these traumatic events that touch our lives. Time, the love and mercy of God are great healers and restorers to the hurts and wounds in our lives. When we would lose hope in the natural, when we would become so discouraged and think all is lost, we can’t discount the power and love of God. Only He can take what others meant for evil and use it for good. Only He can take what would work death and destruction and turn it to work life. “And ye have forgotten the exhortation which speaketh unto you as unto children, My son, despise not thou the chastening of the Lord, nor faint when thou art rebuked of him:
… Now no chastening for the present seemeth to be joyous, but grievous: nevertheless afterward it yieldeth the peaceable fruit of righteousness unto them which are exercised thereby. Wherefore lift up the hands which hang down, and the feeble knees And make straight paths for your feet, lest that which is lame be turned out of the way; but let it rather be healed (Hebrews 12:5, 11-13).” Some of life’s most traumatic moments can lead to life changing events that work eternal changes in us. What we would never choose for ourselves can prune us and make us more fruitful than we would have ever been without them. If you are at that place in your life, don’t let a root of bitterness and unforgiveness come up that would rob the deeper work God can work in you through some of these painful things. “Looking diligently lest any man fail of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble [you], and thereby many be defiled. Lest there [be] any fornicator, or profane person, as Esau, who for one morsel of meat sold his birthright.
For ye know how that afterward, when he would have inherited the blessing, he was rejected: for he found no place of repentance, though he sought it carefully with tears (Hebrew 12:15-17).” God is at work in our lives in ways we can’t even see or know. The enemy is also at work to destroy and undo us, but God is so able to frustrate his destructive work by turning it for our good and redemption. Not only for us, but also for those He places in our path to minister those life experiences too. ” But as for you, ye thought evil against me; [but] God meant it unto good, to bring to pass, as [it is] this day, to save much people alive. (Genesis 50:16).”
” And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to [his] purpose. For whom he did foreknow, he also did predestinate [to be] conformed to the image of his Son, that he might be the firstborn among many brethren. Moreover whom he did predestinate, them he also called: and whom he called, them he also justified: and whom he justified, them he also glorified. What shall we then say to these things? If God [be] for us, who [can be] against us? (Romans 8:28-31).”
Blessings,
kent