Husbands Love Your Wives

September 6, 2019

Ephesians 5: 25-33

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, 27and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church— 30for we are members of his body. 31″For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” 32This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

 

Husbands Love Your Wives

 

Where there is true love there should be honor and where there is honor there should be respect and where there is respect there should be service.  This applies to husbands and wives.  As men we often like to focus on the scripture that tells wives to submit their husbands, but do we continue to read that our lives should exemplify Christ and His love and service to the church.  He loved her so much He laid down His very own life for her.  Do we have that same kind of love for our wives?  Do we lay our lives down for them.  Oh, I know, we go to work every day and we try to provide a respectable living, but we would do that rather we were married or not.  Christ exemplified and modeled before us a selfless love that was intent on helping her to be all that she was called to be.  He covered her weaknesses and shortcomings.  He saw past her faults and sought to meet her needs.  He did all that was in His power to help her become the woman of God she was created for.  He gave her His own name and with that name the authority to draw from all the resources of the bank of heaven. He did not lord over her with control and condemnation, but with loving kindness and selfless example.   He always saw her for what she was becoming not just for where she was in the process. He fed her, cared for her, comforted her and brought her into His presence with the love and intimacy that only a husband can give.  Does this exemplify the way we honor and love our wives.  I know I fall so very short of that, but it is an area that God wants us to examine in our lives.  It is way too easy to ignore all of that and just go on with life as usual, but then we may be wondering why our wife is discontent, frustrated, upset or even angry.

If we want to learn to become men of God who are well pleasing and obedient to Him. we need to start in our own households.  If we don’t learn to properly serve and administrate in the love of Christ over our own families, how can we expect to be used in the ministry of God’s kingdom? His kingdom starts at home.  It starts first in the attitude and condition of our own hearts.  Once that is made right it can flow out to those first closest to us and then to all of those around us.

Sometimes we may feel like we are sacrificing ourselves to bless others.  In our self-sacrifice we assume that our family is willing to sacrifice as we are. to meet the needs of others.  As a result their needs and wants are neglected while we try to meet the needs of those around us.  Our heart may mean well, but we may be missing God’s order.  We need to establish that love, unity and singleness of purpose in our homes before we take it out in the world.  If we get it out of order, their will be disunity and division.  Without establishing that oneness in purpose with our spouse it will hinder any other ministry that God has for us.  It is when we learn how to put our own house in order that we are then in a position to help and minister to others.  This is one reason the Word exhorts us not to be unequally yoked with an unbeliever.  It will always be a hindrance and a snare to us.

For true kingdom ministry to go forth it will always operate best when a husband and wife are one.  When they are one in purpose and calling they will be the most effective in ministry.  When they have their relationship right in the areas of love, honor and respect they will compliment one another and their prayers will not be hindered.

The greatest attack of our day is upon the family and the institution of marriage. The enemy is there at every turn to try and cause disunity and strife.  We must recognize our true enemy and it isn’t the nagging wife or the oblivious husband, but it is the enemy working through our selfishness and our unwillingness to really live for the other.  How much better our marriages can be if our first priority and goal in our marriage is to serve and make happy our spouse and their priority is our happiness  and fulfillment.  Then we are truly loving, honoring and respecting one another.  It is easy for a wife to submit to a husband that is always concerned with what is best for her and I don’t mean that in a controlling way.

If we as men want to know how to rule and reign with Christ then it begins at home with our wife and children.  When we learn to love them as Christ loved the church then we are well on our way to being able exemplify Christ to others and disciple them in His love.

Blessings,

#kent

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