Family Values

January 3, 2018

 

Family Values

 

Ephesians 5:21-33, 6:1-4

Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God. Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so [let] the wives [be] to their own husbands in every thing.

Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;

That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,

That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.

This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.  Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife [see] that she reverence [her] husband.

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; (which is the first commandment with promise;)  That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

 

Since the family is the cornerstone of our civilization it is an important issue with the Lord.  If the family disintegrates in our society, so does it’s structure, foundation, principles and morals.  Here in Ephesians Paul shows us the parallel between the family and our relationship as the Church to our husband Christ.  Sometimes husbands or wives want to pull verses out of context here and use them as a club to beat their spouse.  While a bit long, I felt that we should look at this whole passage in context.  As we read it we can really see that the true expression of love in a family is in submission, service, in caring for and honoring one another.  There is a genuine respect and dignity for each member of the family and no position in the family is to be abused or exploited.  We see a unit that God has put together to operate out of love and unselfishness.  While there is a hierarchy and order to the family, it only serves to solidify and give meaning to each ones position and function within the family.

We see Jesus as the type of the husband, who, though He is Lord of all, humbles Himself and becomes a servant to the Church, His bride.  He is willing to lay down His life to minister to her needs, to protect and provide for her.  She, the Church, makes her Lord and husband the object of her affections, of her adoration and the purpose of her life is to live and honor Him.  The children grow up to honor, respect and obey their parents.  As they grow and mature in this attitude within the loving environment of the home, they learn not to be just takers and users, they begin to learn what it is to be like their parents in giving and serving and working for the common good of the household.  This is the model we have before us in the Word.  In the real world and even in the Christian world, we see this model quite flawed and in many cases broken.  We see our lives and our families out of order and our houses often in ruin.  For us to begin to be the true church and bride of Christ we have to get our own lives in order with Him on a spiritual dimension.   Then what we have in our relationship with Christ has to translate into our family life through proper submission to one another in love.  If the whole family’s attitude is not what some other member can do for them, but what they can do for the other then the harmony and balance comes in, because the family ceases to try and operate out of selfishness and starts to operate in true love.  Just as in the body of the Church, there are offices and gifts that can best be operated from the position that we are in our family.  It is not a matter of one being lesser than another is, it is a matter of being faithful to operate and serve in the position you hold in the family.  We often get our families out of order because members of the family are trying to operate in the positions and offices that haven’t been given to them.

We may justify and say there is good reason for that because someone it dropping the ball, but for us to enjoy the highest blessing, we need under gird one another and help each other in our weaknesses, but that doesn’t mean we usurp their position.  David didn’t take the place of King until the Lord removed Saul and placed him there, even though he could have.  Often we can appoint ourselves to a place in the home where God hasn’t placed us and it gets our home out of order.

As your reflect on some of these principles today think about your family and where you, as a family, may be out of order.  Take this passage and see your position in the home in the light of God’s principles.  God wants us to have family values.  He wants our homes in order physically, emotionally and spiritually.  The first and foremost thing that has to be in place is that LOVE has to rule, because it is not selfish and it doesn’t seek its own.   It is all that 1 Corinthians 13 says that it is.  If Christ is truly reigning in our hearts then He should be able to reign in our homes as well and we, as a family, should be able to operate first and foremost under His headship and direction.  Raising a family is not an easy task, but think how the whole family can grow spiritually as we operate our families in these godly principles.  It can begin at the family altar, where all of us must submit to the Lordship of Christ and to the direction and instruction of the Holy Spirit.

Blessings,

#kent

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